Remember, we have sisters at home…

He was a married man of 30 and had two kids. What’s more, he had a loving spouse who loved him more than anybody could love! He was working in a sales promoting company where he, for the second time, fell in love with a charming lady. She was his colleague of 25 and single who loved him in spite of knowing his marital status. Suddenly one day he decided to marry his girlfriend and hence divorced his wife. His new wife didn’t had to wait long to witness his ugly face. She had to face many irking words daily. He used to beat her daily and force himself on her whenever she refused to respond to his sexual urges. She was actually raped by the same man whom, she thought, she loved!

The above story is not one of Ekta Kapoor’s ‘K’ series, but is the story of hundreds of Indian women.

Now imagine a married woman trying to marry for the second time when her husband is still alive! Imagine a mother of two kids falling in love with a man younger to her or at least imagine a widow expressing her wish to marry someone she loves.

Oh sorry! In a male dominated society it is a sin to imagine a woman in such situations.

If at all such incidents had happened, no doubt the woman would have been branded as prostitute.

Good. It is good to call a woman as prostitute, if she does such things, but what do we call a man if he has sexual relationship with more than one woman? We call a woman in the Red Light area of Mumbai as prostitute but do we really dare to call a man as ‘male prostitute’ (or gigolo) who often goes to prostitutes’ house? No, we don’t!

We deny every respect to a woman sex worker. Good. But why can’t we do the same to a man who often wanders in and around the house of sex workers? Is it because men are physically mightier than the fairer sex or is it because women bear and forgive everything?

We expect our girlfriend/wife to be ideal in every way but why can’t we impose such ideal principles on ourselves? We get irritated when our beloved speaks to another man in a friendly tone. But we (not all!) can’t stop ourselves from gathering bio-data of all smart and charming girls in and around our vicinity!

Oops!

Yes, all boys/men are not bad and at the same time all girls/women are not good. But the bitter fact is that we men/boys (not all) try to shield ourselves, thus making ourselves hypocrites. (Even some girls do the same)

We need not respect a woman just because she is a woman but we should not expect this society to respect us without we actually being worthy for it. Remember, we have sisters, mothers at home and we can not expect this society to respect our sisters unless we give up our hypocrisy.